The Coffee Machine and the Rogue Thought ☕
I was making my Nespresso this morning (yes, still loyal to my machine despite its occasional rebellion), and sometimes it goes rogue and overfills the cup like it's lost its mind—even though it’s not supposed to have one...
(I’m still unconcerned about AI taking over the world, but my coffee machine is clearly on its own journey.)
Earlier this morning, my husband had sweetly brought me a cup of coffee while I was reading. He handed it to me and said,
“Let me know if I need to redo it—the machine overfilled it again.”
Of course this was fine. But later, when I went to get my own cup, the machine stopped at the perfect spot.
And here’s what my brain whispered:
“He must’ve pushed the wrong button. You got it right.”
In other words: he doesn’t know how to operate the coffee machine, but clearly, I do. 😂
The Rogue Thought
This, my friends, is what I call a rogue thought—a sneaky, critical thought that seems harmless but is rooted in something deeper.
These thoughts often show up as subtle judgments of others or ourselves, and they are “trying” to make us feel better (about what is always my question...) But they’re actually pointing to something unresolved.
What Was Really Going On
👉 Here’s what was really happening:
My brain was reaching for an old insecurity—probably something like “I need to be right” or “I have to do it myself.”
Usually, we don’t notice this sneakiness at all. Yet this thought was trying to boost me up by throwing a little judgment at my husband.
Totally unconscious.
Totally subtle.
But very telling.
💗 This is an example of the type of thought that doesn’t come from your soul. It’s coming from an old place inside that still needs healing.
The Good News
🎉 I noticed it.
That’s the beginning of dissolving these hidden patterns that keep us stuck in judgment, reaction, and disconnection—from ourselves and others.
And sure, this one was about coffee.
But how often do rogue thoughts like these pop in... and we believe them?
Here's What Could've Happened
I believe the thought
→ I feel justified
→ I say something unnecessary or snarky
→ Conflict.
But instead, I noticed the ridiculousness of it, was able to pause, didn’t judge it, and let it pass.
That Pause Is Everything
That’s what I teach.
That pause.
That pause between the thought and the reaction.
Because even after years of doing this work, I still uncover little pockets of insecurity that creep in and try to run the show.
The majority of the work is to notice—without judgment.
Real Calm ≠ Stubborn Willpower
✨ So if you want to learn how to pause
(and I don’t mean pause with stubborn willpower—
I mean pause with embodied calm),
...before allowing your rogue thought to turn into something you regret, here are the first two steps:
Notice ANY thought that is critical of yourself or another without judgment.
Repeat #1 as often as possible.
Why Bother?
🌿 Because it gives you the power to respond from your heart… or not respond at all.
🌿 It creates real calm—not the kind where you’re barely holding yourself back from throwing a picture frame across the room at your husband’s head (true story 🙃).
Real calm feels like choice.
It feels like self-trust.
It feels like connection.
And that’s what I want for you, too. 💗
Want to Practice This With Me?
✨ I’m putting together a 4-week live Zoom program for awareness-driven women who want to learn how to pause instead of react.
Just 20 women.
Intimate, real support.
If your heart’s saying yes, raise your hand ✋ or DM me, and I’ll reach out personally.